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In this inspiring new vision of the art of conflict resolution, Kenneth Cloke shows new and accomplished mediators how to examine the inner process and hidden personal recesses that limit their effectiveness, as well as the outside systems and structures that restrict their capacity to act on what they have learned. Cloke explore the dark places-the edges, boundaries, and possibilities of mediation. He reveals how to approach dangerous conflicts-domestic violence, war, slavery, fascism, insanity, and oppression-to uncover hidden choices and informational opportunities that help people and organizations develop, grow, and learn more about themselves. Offering a wealth of fresh possibilities, Mediating Dangerously identifies potential openings, creative techniques, and new and unusual approaches to disputes resolution. The book includes specific guidelines, questions to ask, sample dialogues, checklists, and diagrams to help readers immediately apply new techniques in their current practice.
The inevitable stress and pain of conflict can lure mediation professionals into taking the easy route to a quick compromise. But, claims Cloke, the role of mediators is not simply to settle conflicts or fashion agreements, but to create choices. This means going further, taking risks, opening wounds, and exploring dangerous terrain to locate the centre of what isn’t working. It requires great courage, honesty, and self knowledge to open a Pandora’s Box of fear, resistance, dishonesty, revenge, oppression, and all the defenses and rationalizations that keep individuals, organizations, and societies locked in conflicts.
Mediating dangerously shows conflict resolution professionals how to advance beyond the traditional steps, procedures, and techniques of mediation to unveil its invisible heart and soul and to reveal the subtle and sensitive engine that drives the process of personal and organizational transformation. This book is a major new contribution the literature of conflict resolution that will inspire and educate professional in the field for years to come.

 

Sometimes it's necessary to push beyond the usual limits of the mediation process to achieve deeper and more lasting change. Mediating Dangerously shows how to reach beyond technical and traditional intervention to the outer edges and dark places of dispute resolution, where risk taking is essential and fundamental change is the desired result. It means opening wounds and looking beneath the surface, challenging comfortable assumptions, and exploring dangerous issues such as dishonesty, denial, apathy, domestic violence, grief, war, and slavery in order to reach a deeper level of transformational change. Mediating Dangerously shows conflict resolution professionals how to advance beyond the traditional steps, procedures, and techniques of mediation to unveil its invisible heart and soul and to reveal the subtle and sensitive engine that drives the process of personal and organizational transformation. This book is a major new contribution to the literature of conflict resolution that will inspire and educate professionals in the field for years to come. - from Amzon 

Contents

Part 1: The Inner Frontiers……………………………………..........................p. 1
1 The Dangers of Mediation…………………………….........................p. 3
2 Suppression, Settlement, and Resolution…………….................p. 15
3 Honesty and Empathy: Speaking the Unspeakable……...........p. 25
4 When Helping Becomes a Hindrance…………………...................p. 41
5 Exploring the Conflicts within Ourselves……………...................p. 46
6 Mediating Fear, Apathy, Insanity, and Dishonesty……............p. 55
7 Dismantling the Desire for Revenge……………………..................p. 73
8 The Magic of Forgiveness……………………………….......................p. 87
9 The Significance of Spirit………………………………........................p. 108
10 Conflict as a Spiritual Path……………………………........................p. 119
Part 2: The Outer Frontiers…………………………………...........................p. 127
11 Mediating Fascism and Oppressive Relationships……..............p. 129
12 Power, Rights, and Interests…………………………….....................p. 140
13 Creating Responsible Communities……………………...................p. 157
14 What's Better Than the Rule of Law……………………..................p. 164
15 Shifting from Debate to Dialogue………………………...................p. 174
16 Improving the Way We Fight ………………………….................…p. 186
17 Transforming the System………………………………......................p. 193
18 The Politics of Conflict…………………………………........................p. 207
19 Conflict Resolution Systems Design and the United Nations…p. 219
20 Where Inner and Outer Frontiers Meet…………………...............p. 231
About the Author…………………………………………............................p. 237